Sunday 27 January 2013

ALIVE!!!


Many would say "it is not yet time to dance", many would say "don't jubilate till you have all you desire, you don't even know how tomorrow will turn out"; "you know things change" they say, "be sure you have had a lot before you start counting..." you know and many more excuses to neglect the wonders of being alive and living. But the truth is, we cannot look away completely from the fact that we are still alive. At least not for long.

Sometimes we ask to know what is there to be happy about. Especially if you are a Nigerian and you are not the 'omo baba olowo' type. You have to struggle to make ends meet. You have to pray and sometimes fast like food was never a part of your dictionary to make small progress. Or you are on a job that is not paying well and even though you feel you deserve more you dare not leave it as you do not know when next another of such offers, O! sorry, another of such opportunities will come your way. Especially if you begged before you got the job. Maybe your lover of a long time is clamouring for a marriage that is long overdue and you know that you do not even earn enough to think you can cater for a child now. As if that is not enough, your prophet just told you that it is an old woman with a couple of teeth left in her mouth that is responsible for your predicament. To now add insult to injury, your political leaders seem to be governing another nation different from the one you live in. Because while they appear glowing and winning you are just there...struggling....

But you are alive!

To me it is enough reason to face each day with optimism. The progress might not have been too pronounced but you sure are not where you used to be. Do you know that all you need to make it in life is you...and of course God. Most of it rests on you though. God has done His part, you just need to wake up to the wonderful secrets He has placed around you and within you. No one can stop you except God and you and He is not interested in stopping you at all. So brace up and win in this game called life. Yeah, imagine you are faced with a puzzle in a game and everything is arranged to make it not so easy to solve but you are expected to solve it. The puzzle is only hard not impossible. So is life, it may be hard, but it is not impossible. So wake up and win as the puzzle may be around so hard but within you lies the answer to solve them all...

So even though the flowers are dying around, there is an ever fresh source of bouquet within; if the clouds above are darkening, there is an ever brightening ray of hope from within; and even though living is impossible for many, you have breath in your nostrils.



So let us appreciate being alive as we always have the chance to solve this puzzle called life. Let's live!

Thursday 3 January 2013

STORMS...

Dear Storm
You appear along my way,
You blow against my face,
But at your sight, By God I will not stray
I will only progress even through you till i finish my race

Wednesday 2 January 2013

A LOVE STORY AT ITS END…A TRUE LIFE STORY

Hey guys, I found this story from the person it happened to so I felt like sharing it. I titled it:

A LOVE STORY AT ITS END…A TRUE LIFE STORY

When about a decade ago they met. It was like a brewing fire and a boiling affection. The two were almost inseparable. They loved each other. Their young hearts having found an indulgence in the other. Let me tell you what their first meeting was like.
It was at an examination centre after the day’s paper. The stream of youths who were writing the same exam flocked to the gate of the school used for the examination centre. The school was named after a big church in a state capital. All were going home to prepare for the next day’s examination. Some were looking sad and some indifferent. Some were being picked by cars owned either their parents or friends or even boyfriends. There was dust in the atmosphere, a rising smoke of dust raised by the rain of footsteps exodusing towards the school gate. Some walked alone by choice, intentionally shunning the waves of friendship from co-examinees. Some walked alone because they could not get a company, a worthy or even a manageable company in the sea of colleagues. Some walked alone because they were not the very attractive type. They were cool, not ugly but not every man’s first choice…at least that was the general perspective. She belonged to that company. There were others who walked in the company that they have found in the exam centre, people who seemed to have found a common ground of discussion and a need to share. There was the other group who walked in the company of friends that they had before the exam and were fortunate to have posted to the same centre. He belonged to this group. So in the midst of this cluster of categories they met. Let me show you how.
After the day’s paper, he was walking to the gate with his two best friends in the world. (Having won awards in that regards with one of them). Suddenly, his eye caught her. She was standing, not so beautiful, the typical nerd in her glasses and a striped jean trouser and top. She did appear slightly busty but not too much. Dark in complexion and standing somewhat alone with her handbag. He wanted to look away but could not. The reason, he will never get to know. Although he was a shy type, the fidgety type when it comes to approaching the opposite sex, he seems to have found the strength to approach her. After taking a brief excuse from his friends, he took very fast steps to where she was standing as if in a hurry not to lose the boldness he has. As he talked with her and asked for her name, she was pleasant towards him and immediately they kicked off a long discussion as if it has been a long time since they met. He walked her towards her home with his friends tagging along, the opposite direction of his and his friends’ place. He had a lighter shade to his complexion and many regard him as handsome. He wore a round neck shirt and a baggy trouser with a black sandal. They talked and did not want to leave each other but he was mindful of the day that was fast turning dark or he will have to answer questions on what took him so long to get home after his paper for the day.
The next day, the two of them were hardly separable during the breaks and at the end of the day’s paper. They knew they were in love and he asked her out. She after stalling a little bit agreed to date him. That was how they started out.
His friends got to meet her and she was ever admitted into the circle. However, Mother Nature was looking at the two lovebirds. After the exams, they kept on meeting regularly. They will go to the cybercafé together and even on one of their long strolls, she misplaced her eye glasses. He got to know her Dad’s shop and she his Mum’s and those two places became their rendezvous for talks ranging from their desire for admission, what is happening with them and their love for each other. Until Mother Nature struck…
He got an admission into a higher institution of learning but she could not. She was almost in the same school but it happened that she just could not come. In a world where there was no mobile phone or a means of communication that was efficient, their communication bond snapped. And snapped it was, never to be mended again.
Two years after he gained his admission, he just could not get in contact with her anymore. They lost contacts and became students at different schools of life. Occasionally when they meet, they feel the spark of that affection that they both had once again but always after a month or two it goes back to the normal. It is not like there was no longer any love between them, but the waves after waves of events and life experiences pushed it deeper and deeper under and farther and farther yonder…the two of them, whose names started with the same alphabet. Until one day, they met again. This time at home and she said she was coming back to his school. This time he was already through, just rounding off the needed result checks before leaving for his national youth service exercise.
She drank from a different breast of Mother Nature from him so they were ever apart in thoughts and dispositions. He sees her as an ‘experienced’ lady but one who still has a sure place in his heart. She sees him as a cool rigid guy who is decent and ‘holy’. And because she feels her life was too dirty to be shared with him or that he will never understand, she shut her world totally from him. On the contrary, he was an ideal guy quite alright but not the unrealistic, holier than thou picture she has. In fact he had travelled the same waters as her on a number of occasions and as a result does not judge her. While she try to cover her life, his own experience made it easy to lay bare that which she tries to hide and most vigorously lie about. Although he knew her life, he was ever hurt when one day her confidants started making a public topic of her issue in her absence. Things she thought she wanted to hide from him were laid bare and subjected to public opinion unknown to her by those who give her the advice she follows. They advice him continually to look away from her as he was too decent for a person like her and the family she came from. He would smile and leave them and was determined not to let anything change the fact that he loved her.
On the other side, she had a picture, a picture of the ideal man she wanted. She does think she loves him but he does not really look like the happening version that tickles her fancy. She felt that she cannot just open up her life to this guy. Who knows what he will do?! She thinks on many occasions. Even when he comes to her with questions he already had answers to unknown to her, she felt that hiding the absolute truth will be the best bet.
As a result of these, they were ever unstable like a Christmas light. Blinking and ever blinking. However, whenever they are with each other, their present love fire removes the roof and even ‘fries the cookies’ but once they are away by a few miles, the gulf in communication between them rears its head. It is not like she was a totally indecent lady and he the pure guy, but the two could not just find that bridge to talk with each other. They identified this and agreed to work on it. Whenever they are together, while he finds it easy to talk with her she just cannot bring herself to talk with him. Before he can get a little information from her, he has to probably read and understudy her. He had to study and guess before he could get to effectively give her the needs that she wanted as she could not bring herself to say them to the guy but finds it very easy and even enjoyable telling outsiders who may anyways make it a public discourse in her absence.
Frustrated about how things are, his hold on her gave way. Although his affection for her was like a gourd which when broken still had the ability to hold water. He would not give up and wanted to do his best to hold on to her. He is through with school now, have done postgraduate studies and is a head at a private firm. She too, in her youth service year at the moment felt like there are options around her. After meeting him, every other person she tried to give her affection to were always the wrong choice as they were either married, about to, or even not interested in such with her and even though he tried to prove different, she just would not see it. She seemed to be in a hurry or maybe a journey for something or to somewhere only her knows. She then started devising means to chase the guy away. After about a decade of not giving up, she just wanted him out of the way. Hostilities, lies and cruel handlings were the version of affection he daily feasted on from her table. He knew her plans but chose to behave like he did not. He believed in discussions but it will always be one-sided and until long drillings, either romantic, persuasive and forceful are employed, she will never say a little bit of it all. He knows she wanted him away and confronted her. She denied vigorously. But plans after plans are churned out to just make him say bye bye.
He did tell her to go on one occasion, being tired of wrestling her for her love and attention. She wanted him back. She just could not believe it and he considered her again. It was not as if he never loved her. But she just kind of came back to the old her. It is just like she had found someone else or some people else somewhere who appealed to her heart more than him. So this time she is determined to leave him and does not mind if it hurts him to death. She chose a way, a means that will paralyze the guy and she carried out.
However, he knew all along what her plans were and what she is doing is to him like just another movie. He chose to play along in the bid to have a good laugh at the end of it all. He is not devoid of all affections for her but he knows that their love story have reached its end and now they are writing a different one…

Tuesday 1 January 2013

BECAUSE HE LIVES

If I had not known
Maybe I 'd be jittery today,
If I was not aware
Maybe I would have been stranded on a day like this
But I do know
And it makes all the difference

When I look back
I see pitfalls and potholes
I see the imperfect picture of my strivings
The trial and errors
The mini-successes and the seeming unachievable milestones,
But on a clearer look, I see the mercy
The mercy that kept me through it all

Maybe if I was a novice
I 'd pay attention
To the drumming fear
Knocking my mind from behind
Maybe if I was too innocent
I 'd fake smiles to avoid attention
Or feign laughter to cover up  my fears
But I am not
Of course I do not know so much
But the much I know is sufficient
To shield me from those arrows aimed against my inner peace

Yes! A new calendar year
Yes! A new set of challenges
And Yes! A renewed bowel of mercy
And an ever present help in times of need
An ever listening ear
And an ever ready arm of help
Yes!an ever comforting presence
And an unfathomable experience of sweetness
Yes! He lives and I know
And for that reason,
I will face the uncertain tomorrow with a big smile

Happy new year people